Do you have any crazy relatives?

[Abbey Road]

I have some crazy relatives on my mother side & father's side which was hell for me growing up in the 70's & a little beyond that I didn't have to deal with at all. My so called cousins are out of their minds literally because trying to have a conversation with them was difficult & they thought they were making a fool out of me when they were the biggest fools. I don't know if they ever had a good time in life growing up & being young like going to rock shows but when I was trying to know them talking about music, life & so on it was hell. The dumbest part of all is that these clowns who live mainly in NC & SC think they're better, cooler, smarter than me in their insecure minds which is the biggest joke of all. It was over for me when my beloved grandma died back in 79 when I was 15 & my mom's cousins never could mind their own business when I was growing up & my father's nephews & neices are losers who don't know me at all & think they do which is LUDICROUS. I don't have to deal with these people anymore because they tried to make it out that I was the crazy one talking about music, life & so on when I was just trying to have a conversation but it got twisted around in their warped minds.

[Rebel_Mom]

Abbey - sorry about your relatives. I understand totally and sometimes you just have to basically put those folks on "ignore" and live your life the way you think is right for you. My motto is "until you pay my bills, leave me alone.!"

[Jasmine46]

Oh, yes! I totally understand where you're coming from. We have dysfunctional stuff on my side and my husband's side. I have an older sister who I haven't spoken to for around 10 years or so. She's not literally crazy, just a mean holier-than-thou right winger that is rude and totally critical and has been all my life. I decided it's not worth it, and I wouldn't choose a friend like her, so why feel like I have to be friendly just because of blood? It's better to surround yourself with positive people and try to be happy.

[Rhubarb]

Unfortunately, my mom has mental health problems. I had the mom that no one wanted to have. She has done some awful things to me (I was an only child) and was married 5 times. I forgave her time and time again for the awful stuff, and the straw that broke the camel's back was her support of my ex husband when he was caught cheating with another woman, (he snuck around for four years). She told me what a wonderful father and husband he was. I haven't talked to her in over two years. She was in town (from another state) last month, and stayed with my ex. I was a good kid, good grades, no drinking/drugs/sex, or anything, and I still wasn't good enough for her.

[Jasmine46]

Oh, Rhubarb, that is very sad and unfortunately happens way too often. I hope you are able to understand that it was not your fault and she is not worth getting upset about.

[paula6956]

Rhubarb--- Sorry to hear that about your mom..

I have a sister that has been disowned from my family. What she did to my parents was awful.. She stole their social security #s, and then opend up a TON of credit cards, and my parents only found out when she didnt pay them, and the companies came after them. She finally had to get a lawyer, (Who by the way, hasnt been a help at all) and try to clear their names.

I have a 48 year old mentally retarded sister who works and makes her own money. She even stole her ss#, and opened up MORE accounts. Now that takes a vile and heartless person.

So as a result of all of this, she is no longer a member of our family, and as far as I am concerned, all the pain and anquish she has caused my parents and sister, I hope she ROTS in hell.

[Barbi]

My late father was crazy is a real funny sort of way. He could have been the prototype for Archie Bunker. He was bigoted and narrow minded; he had certain roles for women in his mind, and others for men; our president (whoever it would be at the time) was always right just because he was the president; and church was boring and a waste. However, he was a good family man and harmless and we all laughed at him, just the way we laughed at the TV series; no one took him seriously.

Back in the '60s, I dated Abby Hoffman and was arrested in 18 different states demonstrating against the Viet Nam "war" (it was never an official war, it was classified as a "military action") and my father practically had a stroke. Everything eventually worked out, and we had a close relationship--because, just like Archie Bunker, his family always came first.

[Iniseire]

I'm Sicilian; of course I have crazy relatives.

[Rhubarb]

Yes, she has disowned me (her only child) and although it bothers me alot, I realize that the buckets of shed tears weren't worth it. Oh how I wished I'd had a normal mom! I don't have a grandmother, so it's just me and my daughters. I try and be a way different mom than my mom was to me. So far our relationship is fabulous.

[Rebel_Mom]

Rhubarb, bottom line, all you can do to end the cycle is have a better relationship with my kids. My kids are (relatively) grown-up now and they are really great friends - which is definitely a 180 from the relationship I have today with my siblings. And my mother fostered all of that dysfunction!

[Abbey Road]

I went with my mother to see one of her favorite aunts & she has this son named Louie who is about 48 years old & if he isn't a space cadet mentally & intellectually I don't know who is.

[HHIgirl]

I am half Sicilian and other half Scots/Irish. If you look up crazy alcoholic in the dictionary my besotted family tree is right there bloomin with Gin blossoms.

My Sicilan Nana was mad as a hatter as the day is long! She disowned me for looking to Celtic and would have nothing to do with me. She went as far to LEGALLY disown me in a court of law.


My Mom is of course a bit nutty and the strokes have made it worse. But knowing where she came from I understand this.

My family would KILL me if they knew I was posting any of this. Up here in the North we hide our crazies, we dont' celebrate them like they do in the South. Oh how I long to be in the Carolina's.

[Putbeds]

I had an older brother who died in Feb. 2004 and he was diagonosed as a manic depressive. He abused drugs and alcohol and was a constant pain to my late mother in her final years; between her breathing problems (from years of smoking) and what my brother did, she never enjoyed life after retirement. There were times when he drove us nuts and thank god that my 2 nephews (his sons) haven't turned out like him (YET). --- "You haven't seen the real Homer; it's all burping and neglect" -Bart Simpson