Danielle-OT...Birthday???

[Scoops]

Isn't your birthday this week? or am I mixed up?...I definitely can't find it now with all these old threads moving up. Just recall reading about your upcoming Cher concert, and thought a birthday mention was made.

[Scoops]

Dan-ie-lle????? Don't be afraid. We love to dole out wishes for Happy Birthdays round here. Cmon. fess up. How many whacks?

[Susan]

Scoops, she was saying the other day that her birthday is in February but the concert is an early birthday gift!

[Scoops]

Thanks Susan! LOL I will never remember that....ohhh and I thought I was being so good with my sleuthing. Sheesh.

[Scoops]

Happy Monday Danielle!


ahhh...There, I feel better....had a greeting in there just dying to get out.

[notyou]

Very thoughtful Scoops, but yes it is in February, but you could do a thread like T Minus 4 days and counting!! LOL

[Danielle]

Thanks Scoops for even thinking of me...I will be 40 in February!!
used the birthday early to bribe the hubby to pay the huge price for the tickets lol!!

[Scoops]

Hey, and I used the birthday "old" (45) to get the trip to NY. lol

Whatever works.

[Danielle]

Scoops not to be personal but are you 45 now?? for some reason I thought you were younger..hope you don't mind me asking...

[Faith]

OMG!I Feel So Left Out.....:( I Am 22.Lmao!

[Danielle]

well save up your bribe for your 25th birthday :-)

[Scoops]

Oh to be 22 again....


Danielle, no I am not 45 yet...soon though. ugh. Two of my galpals and I are all turning 45 this year, hence the big trip...I am the baby...they have gone over the falls already.

Nice to know I present young....my son thinks I am 40. lol
He is not on a need to know basis yet. lol

[Danielle]

Is it you that has two year old twins or am I screwed up again???
Sorry about being nosey but I am seriously thinking of another child and am interested in anyone who has had a baby in their late 30's or early 40's...

[Scoops]

I just have the one, and he just turned 7. Not that we didn't want more, just didn't happen. I am happy with the one all the same. He is very close to his cousins, and has a good group of friends.

Funny though, when he sees a local news segment called Wednesday's Child, where you can adopt older challenged kids, he always tells me to call up so we can get one. lol Other than that he seems content being a smaller family.

[Scoops]

Skeeter has the twins...god love her. She has a big bunch and stays so cheery.

[Danielle]

Oh okay thanks scoops I got the names confused :-)

[Sandy]

Go for it Danielle!

My daughter was 36 when she finally had her baby. He is 4½ now and as smart as a whip! He can print, and read just about anything that a second or third grader would be able to. And she adores him. Spends almost every moment on him. She said she waited so long for him that she will devote all of her time to him as long as he needs her.

Besides, if you have one, I will crochet you some stuff.
That should give you some incentive.

Sandy

[whatever]

Danielle, my friend who just turned 41 just had a baby 6 months ago. The baby is adorable. He is her second child, the older one is 8 years old. So if you want to have another child, I think you should go for it.

[PK...]

Hubby's mother was 45 when he was born, and that was almost 68 years ago...

My mother was 39 (she said - but really 40) and that was almost 63 years ago...

Do what is right for you.. You will know it when you see it..

;0))

PK

[Monica]

Danielle I think age is just a number, it is how you feel emotionally and physically that count. My sister, she was told for years that she could not have children, but five months ago they had their first child and she will be 39 next month. She seems to have more energy now than before if that is possible LOL He is already teething ( has three teeth coming in) and smiles constantly ( well not constantly but I am being biased LOL). I got to babysit him this past weekend for a few hours when they came to visit and we had so much fun, his facial expressions are so amazing. Anyways I am getting sidetracked, go with what you and husband feel is right and everything will work out, what others think does not matter.

[Danielle]

My main worry is being able to conceive.... Physically and emotionally I am so ready!!!Also the amnio thing is another thing to consider ..would I have the test or not?? It wouldn't change my decison but still if there is a problem it's always good to know what you will have to deal with. I have a sister who is handicapped and my Mom always said she did the right thing.. I just wonder if pregnancy is harder at 40.....
anyway thanks everyone for all your input..anymore is welcome!!!

[Danielle]

Monica almost forgot how wonderful for your sister!!

[PK...]

Forgot to mention, my sister was 40 plus when she had her 4th...

An after thought, as I was... She is of the age right between my daughters.. Sis is 17 years older than I.. Brother was 20 years older... So I was an only child with 2 siblings...

(She and hubby love R&K, BTW... He was slow coming around, though, but is now firmly in the fold - They certainly are not in the 18-49s and didn't even watch Live before Kelly...)

;0))

PK

[Skeeter]

I had my first child at 26, and my last (6th) at 35 (almost 36). I didn't do the amnio -- you echoed what my doctor said, "Why do it if the results don't matter. It only increases (not dramatically, but does) your chances of miscarrying {if something would go wrong during amnio}".

I say do what you want. Just be prepared that a little one (at least for me) took more out of me at 35 than it did 26. I still love the little guy and we still have lots of fun. I just long for my sleep a little more!!! :)

Skeeter

[Danielle]

6 freaking kids!! no wonder you are tired!! lol
I would have loved to have had four.. But 6 my hat is off to you!!Do you mind me asking the ages????

[Danielle]

forgot to add I think I have more energy now then I did with my second (lost the first late in the pregnacny and don't like to leave her out :-( ) anyway when I had my daughter my Mother was terminally ill and I took care of her at home..so I was never so physically exhausted as I was then....

[Skeeter]

Well, our plan was four children, but God had other plans....

I don't mind telling you their ages (I hope you understand I won't divulge their names...) The oldest 4 (including 1/2 of the twins) are girls, the youngest 2 are boys...

Ages are: 10 1/2, 8 1/2, 7, 2 (twins) and 1.

Life is good!!!

The twins were our miracle babies. They were born at 30 weeks gestation and weighed 2 lbs. 14 oz, and 2 lbs. 10 oz. To look at them now, you'd never know. We were blessed health-wise as well. They are happy, healthy little creatures.

We know why they came into the world early. My mother, who had been operated on in the exact same hospital they were delivered in (about 1.5 hours away) exactly 1 year before their birth, died from her cancer on the day the twins were due. They came early to meet Grandma, and vice versa.

Hope this helps! Put away the kleenex....we're better now. We still miss her, but remember her through photos...

Skeeter

[Scoops]

Danielle, I was 37 during my pregnancy, and I had a wonderful 9 months....didn't even show until my 5th month....I did gain 45 pounds , but I was very happy, with no morning sickness, so eat eat eat was my motto. I liked being pregnant.

I would say that in my town, there are more mothers with children my sons age as their oldest, closer to my age than not. Lots of stay at homes, so I get a good picture.

I didn't do the amnio either...If I recall the rate for miscarriage after age 35 caused by the procedure is 1 in every 200....didn't like the odds much, and like you said Skeeter, if the results don't matter, why do it? My physician when he found out it would not make a difference to us, discreetly implied to me that he felt the odds for miscarriage were even worse than that. That was all I needed.

My cousin is 43 and she is due in the spring with her second, and another of my girlfriends is also 43, and has two sons age 2 and 3, born 12 months apart, no problems. I think as people are living healthier and longer, waiting to marry and have a career, advancements in fertility treatments, the average age for giving birth had to increase a few years at least. Which would make older moms much more common.

In other words, after all my blabbing here, don't stress yourself out about it, relax and give it a shot. Good luck!!!

[Scoops]

So sorry about your Mom Skeeter.

[Skeeter]

Thanks, Scoops.

[PK...]

Back in the really old days... Our ancestors had lots and lots of children and it was not a rarity for women to give birth right up to menopause..

;0))

PK

[Faith]

Thanks Danielle!I already started!

[MsPiggie]

Geez Skeeter...I am sorry. What an emotional ride that must have been...and still is.

I am sorry. :(

[Skeeter]

Yeah, you're right, MsPiggie (I'm crying as I write this)...my mom was one of my best friends, but it's somehow comforting to know that she's even closer to me now and helping me through every day.

Although, I must admit, there are lots of days I'd like to pick up the phone and call her.

Thanks for the thoughts. You're so sweet!

[Danielle]

Skeeter my Mom has been gone for nine years now and I still cry a lot!!

I remember when she had been gone about 2 years and my daughter lost her first tooth!! I ran to the phone and picked it up to call Mom to tell her the news..I actually dialed the number before it sunk in that she wasn't there to call anymore :-(

On a lighter note though last x-mas at the dinner table I just burst into tears. My Dad asked me why I was crying and I just said I miss Mom!!! He looks at me and says "well you'd crap yourself if she walked in wouldn't ya?" winked at me and kept eatting!! It really made me laugh and broke the sadness. I feel for you and all who have lost anyone...My Mom has been in my thoughts so much lately since my sil got the same cancer that took my Mom. It has really brought the grief right back to the surface.
((hugs))

[MsPiggie]

This is ridiculous, but I when I think about losing my parents, I cry...I mean, boo hoo cry!!!! AND THEIR STILL HERE!!! So, really, I can't fathom them not being....especially my Mom. Makes me sad for you guys.

Cute story Danielle.

(I know your Mother's are proud of you!)

[Skeeter]

You know what? I know it sounds silly, but I still can't always believe she's not here. She was so vibrant....

Love your mama, MsP!!! In fact, next time you see her, give her a big ole hug from Skeeter!!! I hug everyone's moms now....and make sure and tell them to hug their mamas and always, always, always tell them you love them....you never know if it will be the last time (now, don't cryin' on me...you know what I mean....)

Love ya!!

Skeets