Jill has a Child?!?!?

[ellie]

I just heard Jill say she has a four year old. I never heard her mention having a child before. I know she hasn't been married for four years yet, so is this child with her current husband. I don't even remember Jill being pregnant.

[beaglelvr]

Hi ellie, Jill has a step-child. That threw me at first when I heard her, but it's her husband's child. I still have a hard time picturing her as the motherly type, but maybe she's different at home. I give her the benefit of the doubt. JMHO.

[ellie]

Thanks beaglelvr, I was considering that. If I was the child's birth mother I might get upset hearing Jill on the TV saying "my child this and my child that". But of course we do not know the circumstances. Thanks again!!

[puddy]

"Mom" could be dead. It happens.

[Susiee]

Her BONUS child! I once heard her say that all the kid's toys were relegated to the basement!!! Anybody with kids knows that's not going to work.

[momof3]

I personally LOVE the way she refers to her step daughter as her "bonus daughter". It is such a loving and creative term. And she seems to be involved in her life as she talks about things they do, vacations etc.

[Susiee]

momof3: I don't know how "creative" Jill is because I heard Susan Sarandon on a show several days ago describe Tim's children as her "bonus children".

[QVC Queen]

Sorry. Just cant see Jill as a Mom

[lambyo]

I might get flamed, but I think Jill's referral to the kid as a "bonus child" just reflects her insecurity. Big deal, she's your stepkid, millions of people have 'em, get over it and stop trying to sugar coat it. Just my opinion, as an "adopted" child.

[EskieRuth]

I think Jill would be a great mom. She seems to be very involved in her daughter's life. I'm wondering too if the real mom is dead. It seems that the daughter lives with Jill all the time the way it sounds at least. I know a lot of you don't care for Jill but I do like her a lot. Well, I have kids they are adults now but the toys were in the basement and it worked just fine. I don't see myself as a bad mom and as far as I can tell my children don't either. Just one woman's humble opinion. LOL

[ellie]

Susiee (or anyone else that might know), Susan Sarandon was on QVC! What was she selling? I never heard this before. Personally I can't stand her, I am just curious.

[QVC Queen]

I agree Lamyo

[Susiee]

I saw Susan Sarandon on "The View"

[KarynLR]

Susan Sarandon has an older daughter (for sure) from a previous marriage; maybe more children. Tim Robbins might have one child from a previous marriage, but he and Susan do have two or three sons together--so I think that Susan referring to her "bonus children" is in reference to the fact that she got to mother again.

Does Jill really say "bonus daughter" all the time?

[HHIgirl]

I was a stepmother for a long time. Nothing is more disrespectful to the mother to refer to your step child as "my daughter or son".(I became a stepmother at 23)even if the Mother is deceased you are dishonoring the memory of the Mother in that respect. I have years of experience with a pissed off Mother and Mother in Law. As for "bonus" daugther. I put that in the "slang" category. I think we all have become lax in our speech and our reference to other peoples children. Just my opinion.

[lambyo]

Yes, Jill ALWAYS refers to Kylie as her "bonus child". The kid calls her "Jill".

[EskieRuth]

When I think of being a "step-mother" I go back to Cinderella. I personally don't like thinking of my step-daughters as "step-children" makes them sound like less than a person. I refer to them as my daughters when speaking about them to others. I have NO disrepect for their birth mom in fact we have become friends. She knows that she IS their mom and I know I am NOT their mom but it certainly sounds more pleasant then calling them "step" children. That just seems to make them sound unimportant to me and they are VERY important to me. They came with their dad as part of the package. I love him so why wouldn't I love his children. When I talk to others about the girls I just don't want them to think I make them do more work then my birth kids or keep them chained in the basement or something. Sorry but that is my humble opinion. I think the Cinderella story did it to me!! :-)Eskie

[shopping]

Similar to Jill's use of the word "enjoyable", I believe that "bonus child" is a term taken from another celebrity. It isn't something she coined herself. For some reason, I think that it was Dr. Laura who uses it?

[Boo]

Did anyone else hear Jill say yesterday that she had been in the stepchild's life since she was a baby? What the heck?

[shopping]

I didn't hear that. I bet there is some interesting history there.

[lorip]

EskieRuth--
I agree with you about referring to your stepchildren as your children. They know you are not their birth mother. However, they are your children, and you love them as any mother would, with kindness, caring and compassion. In return, they get to have two mothers and more love and attention.
My husband and I took in a young woman who had a mother, a mother who was unable to properly care for her. This lovely girl knew we "weren't her parents." But, we referred to her as our daughter. She beamed every single time. She was part of a family, and she felt safe knowing that no matter what happened, she was loved.
I have an adopted niece and nephew. My sister doesn't call them her "adopted" children. They are her children. Period. I am their aunt, not their adopted aunt. They are my family, and I love them.
The one thing I like about Jill is that she talks about her daughter with affection and a real interest in her life. Perhaps this child's mother died in childbirth. This sadly happens. Or, the parents divorced. Or, the birth mom was killed in an accident. Whatever the circumstances, Jill clearly wants this child to be loved. Nothing wrong with that!
lorip

[SnoBo]

I'm new here,but found this thread interesting. My input is only to say that as a stepmom for almost 14yrs, my stepdaughter calls me Mama as opposed to Mom which is what she calls her mother. Her mother knows this and it's not an issue. And about 3yrs ago while reading a parenting board, we (sd and I ) read the term "bonus child" and liked it. It became an inside joke for us and she will often say that I love her best because she's my "Bonus Kid" LOL
So just here to say that the term is endearing for some.

[ladybug]

Thanks for that input, SnoBo -- and welcome to the board!! It sounds like you have a great relationship with your step/bonus daughter! Jump right in and join us here.

[Kygrl]

I'm so glad this subject was brought to attention. Jill Bauer is o.k. (take or leave). I do have a problem w/ the reference of bonus child. Why?? is that an issue w/ Jill? I prefer **my husband's daughter** & leave it @ that.

[SnoBo]

I can only speak for myself and my own SD,but we like it because she's the extra "bonus" that I got when I met my husband. :-)We don't use it constantly, people who knew me many years ago know that she isn't my daughter biologically and when I'm asked how many children I have, depending on the circumstances I'll say 3 or 4. I don't pretend that she is my own flesh and blood, I have enough respect for her mother and for her not to do that. We do have a close bond though and I do love her as my own. I really think it depends on the relationship, how it develops etc. I helped raise her all these years so we are closer is some ways that even some friends and family aren't with their stepchildren.

To each their own.

[SIRGAL]

I was not a stepchild nor do I have a stepchild. When I first heard Jill say "bonus child", and she was the first person I ever happened to hear use the term, I thought it was a great way to describe the situation. It is such a softer, gentler ring than stepchild yet acknowledges the lack of blood relationship and while showing caring. I thought that would please everyone.

It still seems like a good term to me, but surely it is something every family will decide for themselves.

[ladybug]

Well said, Sirgal. I agree!

[yippie9]

this is news to me

[shopping]

I think that Dr. Laura coined the phrase "bonus" child. It is great that she treats her like her own daughter, but I wonder if the child's mother is still around and what she thinks about all of this.

[Nice]

I think y'all are ridiculous for speculating about how the child's birth mother may have died during childbirth (as lorip so "brilliantly" claimed, it does happen) and about what she thinks of Jill as stepmother or of calling this child her bonus child. Don't y'all have anything better to do than sit around fussing over a stupid issue.

GET A LIFE you stupid pimps and hoes.

SERIOUSLY.

[skookie]

That wasn't "Nice"

[Nice]

Well I don't think this thread is very "nice" either, so why don't you mind your own business or get a clue?

[amber]

maybe


but i think not

[skookie]

Mind my own business? The business of using a public forum to express opinions?

Clues have been given - SERIOUSLY!

Maturity is discussion without calling names or denigrating other's opinions.

So, who's clueless?

[EskieRuth]

I knew there was a reason that I have quit being a part of this board. Trevor was sure right when he called this a "dysfunctional" board. Sheesh bye bye now and forever.

[dallas]

Hi Everyone;
I think it is normal to wonder about certain things. There is nothing wrong with discussing things about Jill and her bonus child. This board is meant for discussions. I often thought about Kiley's birth mother when Jill mentions "her daughter or her bonus daughter". Before she was married there was never a mention of this child and soon after she was married little bits and pieces of her "new life" got mentioned. For instance, she said she had been involved with Kiley since she was a baby. I for one would love to know the whole story!!!
Dallas

[puddy]

Eskie - please stay! Don't let an unregistered troll do that to you. Ignore the jerk!

[Shopgirl]

Today she referred to her as "my 4-year old".